Humor

Humor, like many things is held in the eye of the beholder - it's relative. And for the most part nothing is off-limits when it comes to humor. Well, nothings off-limits to some people. And here is my point: I've recently been criticized for my "crass" humor about my children and husband on face-book. If you're not familial with my work - well, then you prob don't know me and what the heck are you doing reading this if you don't know me??? :-)

My life is CRAZY - yeah, I hear ya - yours is too. But, do you have a 12 year old that still poops in her pants? Do you have to go to yearly meetings to *decide* what route to take in your daughter's education? Do you *pray* that your daughter will one day be able to live alone? On and on and on I could go. So maybe crazy isn't the word - but CHALLENGING!

For the most part, we've done well. My family seems "relatively" normal (and you should meet my relatives) <--- get it, relatively.... :-) I think we've done a pretty good job of grieving in private. So anyway I was told that I should be GRATEFUL for all I have!!! And before you people that know me ask - the person is still alive - for now. :-)

There's a certain kind of "dark" humor that I have found to be of comfort. It's the kind of humor that laughs at the fact that I was ELATED when my daughter UN-buckled herself in the bus. The bus driver was not. But see, *I* was seeing that her hand strength had progressed to where she *could* do that! So, you see I AM grateful. Probably more than *some* people. I'm grateful for the hundreds of things that many take for granted. Eye contact, reading, singing (WAY off key - but singing), speaking so that clerks can understand you, strangers that treat my daughter like a PERSON, soft bowel movements. Ok, you've prob got the idea - I'll stop there. :-)

My sister has a para-pelagic husband now. I guess she should be *grateful* he's not dead. And she is - but I'd NEVER tell her that. Her humor, like mine is a little on the dark side. You have to laugh - believe me - you'd do nothing but cry. And like me she's grateful for the help she's received and all the good things - but she's just as PISSED that she has to go through it at all. We ALL have that kind of something. And even though we probably wouldn't trade our cross that we bear for someone else's, we still have the right to joke about it. It just fascinates me that people think they have the right to criticize how you're living your life when they, in fact, have NEVER even come close to living you life. This person is divorced, I'm not. This person didn't live with their children as they were growing up, they have grand kids, I do not. SO many things that are different - not to mention they have NEVER had a special needs child. So.... to you, the person who told me that I should be grateful..... BITE ME!
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