Friday, January 30, 2009
Illinois, Illinois, Illinois
Changing the Illinois System of DD SupportIllinois residents who have family members with developmental disabilities are getting some welcome support from the Illinois Council on Developmental Disabilities (ICDD). They have created a 72 page Blueprint for System Redesign, a massive seven-year overhaul to provide long-term solutions for all individuals with developmental disabilities in Illinois. But now they need our help to push this through. Why is this important for you?Illinois ranks first in institutionalizing individuals and ranks last in the percentage of people with a developmental disability living in a setting of 1-6 people. As much as 15,000 people with developmental disabilities are currently on waiting lists for services. This will only increase. Do we want our family members to continue marching into this broken system?
Selfless Parent?
Are you the selfless parent of a child with autism?
Saturday January 24, 2009
There are many reasons to get married and/or have children. In my own experience, I find that the majority of people choose to marry and have children because (1) everyone does it, and it just seems natural; (2) they love their mate and/or want the pleasure of raising children; (3) they want the security that comes along with a mate and the expectation that children will take care of them in their old age. Some people certainly marry and have children because it gives them a sense of connection and purpose that they lacked prior to having a family.
None of these reasons, in my opinion, are "wrong" - they're simply part of the human condition.
In answer to my question "has your child with autism wrecked your life?" (referring specifically to children with really profound autistic symptoms), though, one commenter named Laura said this:
We don't become (or shouldn't become) wives or husbands or parents out of a selfish need or motivation for someone to give something back to us. These roles may require complete selflessness on our part at some point in life and deciding that because the other person cannot give back to me what I give to them...their life is not my call to make. And as a side note, I make their life worth living in some way by the way I have so much control over what kind of life they live. As with the disabled husband, with a disabled child, I have the responsibility to figure out what makes them tick, what gives them joy, satisfaction, confidence and any amount of independence and GIVE it to them in ridiculously large amounts.I must say that I am in awe of an individual for whom marriage and childbearing is a wholly unselfish and altruistic act - and for whom selflessness is a pure joy. Few of us would embrace an unexpected disability, and fewer of us would gladly dedicate their lives solely to the joy, satisfaction and confidence of another.
Personally, while I am raising a child with autism - and while my husband and I have made life changes to support that child's needs - I can't really say that I became a parent out of a purely selfless desire to care for another human being. I wanted to enjoy parenthood (and I do!). I wanted a reason to play, get silly, and rediscover the world through a child's eyes (and I do!). It's hard for me to fault parents for feeling angry, frustrated or depressed when none of their ordinary dreams of parenthood come true.
What's your feeling about marriage, child-rearing, and unexpected disability? Express your thoughts here - or vote in the poll!
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I have to admit sometimes I feel cheated. It's usually after I've had some kind of GREAT experience and I'm living life almost forgetting about what Sal deals with and it comes RAGING in. Maybe it's in the form of a full-blown meltdown, a bathroom incidence, a Doctor's visit (you forget she can't open her mouth and say "aw" on command), or maybe a skating party.
Yes, last night it came RAGING in!!! First there was the physical limitations of being able to put on skates (or even helping shove her foot in the boot), then there was the anxiety attack when she began to skate, then there was the CONSTANT need for verbal commands as to what to do. When I looked around and saw that our 3 year old neighbor had gotten the hang of it and we were still NO WHERE near there I remembered. We call it Autism - but I'm not sure that's an accurate name. Whatever it is that has a hold of Sal. That limits her communication, her brain waves, her muscles and joints to work in sync with her brain. It's times like those that I want to draw my sword like Peter did. But I know all too well, it hasn't won everything. There are SO many blessing that go with it. I usually think that the blessings outnumber the problems. It's only sometimes when it seems EVERYTHING is an obstacle.
But in retrospect we beat "it's" butt last night. She did SO well for her limitations that it really is a blessing. Her meltdown didn't last *that* long and she was encouraged by all of her peers. So take that Autism. We will persevere.
Saturday January 24, 2009
There are many reasons to get married and/or have children. In my own experience, I find that the majority of people choose to marry and have children because (1) everyone does it, and it just seems natural; (2) they love their mate and/or want the pleasure of raising children; (3) they want the security that comes along with a mate and the expectation that children will take care of them in their old age. Some people certainly marry and have children because it gives them a sense of connection and purpose that they lacked prior to having a family.
None of these reasons, in my opinion, are "wrong" - they're simply part of the human condition.
In answer to my question "has your child with autism wrecked your life?" (referring specifically to children with really profound autistic symptoms), though, one commenter named Laura said this:
We don't become (or shouldn't become) wives or husbands or parents out of a selfish need or motivation for someone to give something back to us. These roles may require complete selflessness on our part at some point in life and deciding that because the other person cannot give back to me what I give to them...their life is not my call to make. And as a side note, I make their life worth living in some way by the way I have so much control over what kind of life they live. As with the disabled husband, with a disabled child, I have the responsibility to figure out what makes them tick, what gives them joy, satisfaction, confidence and any amount of independence and GIVE it to them in ridiculously large amounts.I must say that I am in awe of an individual for whom marriage and childbearing is a wholly unselfish and altruistic act - and for whom selflessness is a pure joy. Few of us would embrace an unexpected disability, and fewer of us would gladly dedicate their lives solely to the joy, satisfaction and confidence of another.
Personally, while I am raising a child with autism - and while my husband and I have made life changes to support that child's needs - I can't really say that I became a parent out of a purely selfless desire to care for another human being. I wanted to enjoy parenthood (and I do!). I wanted a reason to play, get silly, and rediscover the world through a child's eyes (and I do!). It's hard for me to fault parents for feeling angry, frustrated or depressed when none of their ordinary dreams of parenthood come true.
What's your feeling about marriage, child-rearing, and unexpected disability? Express your thoughts here - or vote in the poll!
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I have to admit sometimes I feel cheated. It's usually after I've had some kind of GREAT experience and I'm living life almost forgetting about what Sal deals with and it comes RAGING in. Maybe it's in the form of a full-blown meltdown, a bathroom incidence, a Doctor's visit (you forget she can't open her mouth and say "aw" on command), or maybe a skating party.
Yes, last night it came RAGING in!!! First there was the physical limitations of being able to put on skates (or even helping shove her foot in the boot), then there was the anxiety attack when she began to skate, then there was the CONSTANT need for verbal commands as to what to do. When I looked around and saw that our 3 year old neighbor had gotten the hang of it and we were still NO WHERE near there I remembered. We call it Autism - but I'm not sure that's an accurate name. Whatever it is that has a hold of Sal. That limits her communication, her brain waves, her muscles and joints to work in sync with her brain. It's times like those that I want to draw my sword like Peter did. But I know all too well, it hasn't won everything. There are SO many blessing that go with it. I usually think that the blessings outnumber the problems. It's only sometimes when it seems EVERYTHING is an obstacle.
But in retrospect we beat "it's" butt last night. She did SO well for her limitations that it really is a blessing. Her meltdown didn't last *that* long and she was encouraged by all of her peers. So take that Autism. We will persevere.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
My Work Here Is Done
We just got home from JES skating party. I'm putting Jack to bed and he takes out a new pair of pants and puts them on to wear to bed . He also wants to wear his coat to bed. I tell him to take off the pants and coat and put on his footie pjs. He starts to cry and says "You just ruin my life all the time." I couldn't help but laugh out loud. I know he's tired , but it was so funny the way he said it. I got him dressed and tucked him in, kissed him and told him I'd see him in the morning and I'd ruin his life some more. :-)
"You're not supposed to do that, you're supposed to make my life happy and fun."
Oh, that Jack a loo.
So ---- skating. Sally did REALLY well. It was really HARD work tonight. Sal has a problem with herself in space anyway - let alone put her on wheels. So her and I went around the rink about 4 times all together. It took a while but we made it. We got something to drink and then watched all her friends.
That was cute too. All her buddies would give her kuddos and support as they passed by on the rink. Mrs Legner was there - she skated with Sal tonight. Sal was quite the talk of the place. Everyone was so proud of her. I KNOW she FELL into bed tonight - we had Tech club, school, bowling and then skating. No rest for the wicked. ;-)
"You're not supposed to do that, you're supposed to make my life happy and fun."
Oh, that Jack a loo.
So ---- skating. Sally did REALLY well. It was really HARD work tonight. Sal has a problem with herself in space anyway - let alone put her on wheels. So her and I went around the rink about 4 times all together. It took a while but we made it. We got something to drink and then watched all her friends.
That was cute too. All her buddies would give her kuddos and support as they passed by on the rink. Mrs Legner was there - she skated with Sal tonight. Sal was quite the talk of the place. Everyone was so proud of her. I KNOW she FELL into bed tonight - we had Tech club, school, bowling and then skating. No rest for the wicked. ;-)
His Pocket
Sigh..... I asked Jack for his library card this morning. I had given it to him yesterday so he could get a book on the book mobile. "It's in my pants from yesterday."
I cautiously put my hand in his little pocket(I'm always on the alert for something to bite me). I swear the boy could last 4 days in the wilderness from what he has in his pockets. There was trail mix, that he had bought at lunch and was going to give to his sister - but forgot, 2 Pok'e mon cards, a tiny pencil with the eraser chewed off. I found two pennies in the other pocket, a folded math paper, a cap from a milk carton (that he kept from lunch so he could play with Rexie later on), a Crusader cash, and his library card.
Between his pockets and his backpack it's scary what the boy deems "important" enough to hang on to. (rolling my eyes)
We're on day #3 of him wearing nail polish. He said some kids laughed at him - but not that many. I don't know if I should be proud that he doesn't give in to peer pressure or ashamed.
Jack decided today, that since Sally goes to school early on Tues and Thursdays, he should then walk by himself to school. When I agreed and told him he could go right then he changed his tune. He'd start next Tuesday. I swear sometimes that boy seems to just say things to see if he can manipulate his way. Almost like his life isn't right unless he's being persecuted.
Sally, on the other hand is always in a good mood and always happy for ANYTHING! I got a big thank you today because her Staley shirt was clean and that I had it all ready for her to wear today. You just never know.........
I cautiously put my hand in his little pocket(I'm always on the alert for something to bite me). I swear the boy could last 4 days in the wilderness from what he has in his pockets. There was trail mix, that he had bought at lunch and was going to give to his sister - but forgot, 2 Pok'e mon cards, a tiny pencil with the eraser chewed off. I found two pennies in the other pocket, a folded math paper, a cap from a milk carton (that he kept from lunch so he could play with Rexie later on), a Crusader cash, and his library card.
Between his pockets and his backpack it's scary what the boy deems "important" enough to hang on to. (rolling my eyes)
We're on day #3 of him wearing nail polish. He said some kids laughed at him - but not that many. I don't know if I should be proud that he doesn't give in to peer pressure or ashamed.
Jack decided today, that since Sally goes to school early on Tues and Thursdays, he should then walk by himself to school. When I agreed and told him he could go right then he changed his tune. He'd start next Tuesday. I swear sometimes that boy seems to just say things to see if he can manipulate his way. Almost like his life isn't right unless he's being persecuted.
Sally, on the other hand is always in a good mood and always happy for ANYTHING! I got a big thank you today because her Staley shirt was clean and that I had it all ready for her to wear today. You just never know.........
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Tonight is Jack's b-ball session and I *still* don't know who Robert (Sal's People) is. So I'll get that disappointed "it's ok - I know you're a looser" look from her. ;-) She's SO into her schedule. We go over what's going on every morning. Sometimes I have to remind her that we need only think about the day at hand.
I had homework last night. Another questionnaire from the Psychologist at school. If I had a nickel for every questionnaire I've answered - well, I wouldn't need to work - that's for sure. I'm thinking seriously of making a LOT of copies of all the Dr reports for EACH teacher and or therapist going into Middle School. It's frustrating sometimes.
Speaking of.... the husband was upset last night. Mostly about lack of care coming his way from others. It's hard to watch him go through things sometimes. I know it's part of the grief stuff that we have to go through due to our situation and I guess I should just be happy that it seems we don't do it at the same time. :-)
Someone once told me that it was like the ocean. You go in and you feel the cold and you keep wading in until you can't take the cold anymore and you have to back to the beach and then after you warm up a little you go back in .... repeating this process over and over and over for the rest of your life. It's hard - but not as hard as it could be. Only I know better than to mention that right now. Everyone needs a time to really *feel* it, on their own terms.
I had homework last night. Another questionnaire from the Psychologist at school. If I had a nickel for every questionnaire I've answered - well, I wouldn't need to work - that's for sure. I'm thinking seriously of making a LOT of copies of all the Dr reports for EACH teacher and or therapist going into Middle School. It's frustrating sometimes.
Speaking of.... the husband was upset last night. Mostly about lack of care coming his way from others. It's hard to watch him go through things sometimes. I know it's part of the grief stuff that we have to go through due to our situation and I guess I should just be happy that it seems we don't do it at the same time. :-)
Someone once told me that it was like the ocean. You go in and you feel the cold and you keep wading in until you can't take the cold anymore and you have to back to the beach and then after you warm up a little you go back in .... repeating this process over and over and over for the rest of your life. It's hard - but not as hard as it could be. Only I know better than to mention that right now. Everyone needs a time to really *feel* it, on their own terms.
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
It's cute to watch Sal on Tues and Thurs morning. She has Tech club at 7:30 a.m. and I take her to school early. I have to get out and open the door for her (so celebrity fashion) because she can't open the door. She hardly kisses me good-bye. She's all business, ready to start the day. Jack gets a little chance of "freedom" by getting to stay at home for the few minutes I'm gone.
Jack also gets to cook his own breakfast and do what he wants to without torture from his older sister. And I get peace!!! I'm loving Tues and Thurs mornings.
Mrs L told me that last Tech club Sal needed NO help at all on her computer. They were to copy a poem (typing) and then add pictures for the poem. Her poem typing was a *little* off but her pictures were great and she did it ALL by herself!!!!
Sally has also decided that she should be the one to keep Mabel in line. What's funny is - no one deserves it more. :-) She *roughly* pets her and tells her in her fish wife voice "Mabel, you not bite me, you be good, lets play tug of war, Mabel." Which consists of Sally pulling Mabel around by a rope toy and yelling at the top of her lungs: "tug of war, Mabel, tug of war". It really is quite comical.
Jack wanted his nails painted last night - because some wrestler has them painted. AND was quite upset that I had no purple polish. It was like I wasn't American or something because I had no purple nail polish. He did, however, pick out a chrome color and was ok with it. We'll see how it went today in school. I kind of hinted around that some kids may laugh at him. He seemed not to care - so we'll see ..... It's that double edged sword again - not wanting him to fall to peer pressure but yet wanting him not to be totally outcast either. Lord, give me strength.
Jack also gets to cook his own breakfast and do what he wants to without torture from his older sister. And I get peace!!! I'm loving Tues and Thurs mornings.
Mrs L told me that last Tech club Sal needed NO help at all on her computer. They were to copy a poem (typing) and then add pictures for the poem. Her poem typing was a *little* off but her pictures were great and she did it ALL by herself!!!!
Sally has also decided that she should be the one to keep Mabel in line. What's funny is - no one deserves it more. :-) She *roughly* pets her and tells her in her fish wife voice "Mabel, you not bite me, you be good, lets play tug of war, Mabel." Which consists of Sally pulling Mabel around by a rope toy and yelling at the top of her lungs: "tug of war, Mabel, tug of war". It really is quite comical.
Jack wanted his nails painted last night - because some wrestler has them painted. AND was quite upset that I had no purple polish. It was like I wasn't American or something because I had no purple nail polish. He did, however, pick out a chrome color and was ok with it. We'll see how it went today in school. I kind of hinted around that some kids may laugh at him. He seemed not to care - so we'll see ..... It's that double edged sword again - not wanting him to fall to peer pressure but yet wanting him not to be totally outcast either. Lord, give me strength.
Monday, January 26, 2009
It's been on of THOSE weekends....
It was a tiring weekend. Sal has been kind of out of sorts. Not really sure what it is. Swimming went very well and so did basketball. We even managed to find New Lenox and Lincoln Way. We're beginning to be world travelers. :-)
But after that home life has not been pretty. I think I caught whatever Bill has last week. :-( And Bill just getting over whatever it was ..... well, it didn't set well with Sal that her parents were kind of "down for the count".
Talked to my Mom - seems everyone I know has Cancer. And the few down there who don't are busy tending to the ones who do. It's a sobering situation.
My sister is on to be in the Follies. She's got her script and is busy memorizing. I don't know how she does it.
Lon and I are trucking through the country this morning to get our hairs cut. I'm supposed to go in after that to work but I'm going to call bossman. I got 0 done this weekend and this is the last Monday off due to tax season so I figure I could really use the time here.
Bill picked up his tee-shirts this weekend and hats. Jack and Sal proudly wore things to the game. So many people have "said" they'll vote for him. It will be interesting.
Right when the vote ends and tax season takes a back seat I need to make sure to check out all the things that need to be done to transition Sal. I'm very anxious about it and I'm trying hard not to be - you know how she picks up on all that. In fact, that could be some of her "stuff" lately.
Ya just never know.
But after that home life has not been pretty. I think I caught whatever Bill has last week. :-( And Bill just getting over whatever it was ..... well, it didn't set well with Sal that her parents were kind of "down for the count".
Talked to my Mom - seems everyone I know has Cancer. And the few down there who don't are busy tending to the ones who do. It's a sobering situation.
My sister is on to be in the Follies. She's got her script and is busy memorizing. I don't know how she does it.
Lon and I are trucking through the country this morning to get our hairs cut. I'm supposed to go in after that to work but I'm going to call bossman. I got 0 done this weekend and this is the last Monday off due to tax season so I figure I could really use the time here.
Bill picked up his tee-shirts this weekend and hats. Jack and Sal proudly wore things to the game. So many people have "said" they'll vote for him. It will be interesting.
Right when the vote ends and tax season takes a back seat I need to make sure to check out all the things that need to be done to transition Sal. I'm very anxious about it and I'm trying hard not to be - you know how she picks up on all that. In fact, that could be some of her "stuff" lately.
Ya just never know.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
LOOOONNNNNG, Emotional Day
So, the bossman walks in today and immedately cancels a haircut so he can see the ignaguration. Didn't even dawn on me that we would be able to see in on the web. So at 10:30 I tuned in and totally got ticked because the feed was SO bad. Everyone and their mother must have been logged on to see it - because it stopped all the time and froze and the sound wasn't even on the same page as the video. So I went to the radio and listened to his speech and then cried and cried.
But the good kind of cry. The kind of tears that afirm "amen" to what he was saying. I SO hope he can unite this country.
No matter what your politics were today you had to feel part of something larger than yourself. Amazing pride of the huge step our country has taken. Less than 40 years ago not everyone had the same rights. Feels good to get it right. :-)
(January 20, 2008)
But the good kind of cry. The kind of tears that afirm "amen" to what he was saying. I SO hope he can unite this country.
No matter what your politics were today you had to feel part of something larger than yourself. Amazing pride of the huge step our country has taken. Less than 40 years ago not everyone had the same rights. Feels good to get it right. :-)
(January 20, 2008)
Monday, January 19, 2009
If Her Mom Could Just Get It Together
Wednesday we had basketball with Jack. I pick them up from school and we go right to the Park District. Jack does his basketball thing and Sal and I sit in the bleachers and read or do whatever. This time I brought her people (Fisher Price Little People). She got them all out, lined them up and looked at me and said "You didn't bring Robert?" Stunned (and not knowing who the heck Robert was) I said "Well, no, I just grabbed some and put them in a bag."
"That's ok" she said in a voice tone that was in a sense saying 'I've lived with your lack of performance this long - I can keep going'. :-) It was so funny.
We (my *wonderful* children and myself) then spent 2 days together. Because of the cold school was cancelled. Ugghhh. How the heck to stay at home mothers do it??? Times like this make me really appreciate teachers.
Lon and I trucked out to Minooka on Saturday for a "Diva Day" (crop from 10-10) It was FANTASTIC!!! We had the best time. We've gone often enough now that we know most of the women by name and the owners are good friends now, too. It was a day that was MUCH needed for both of us.
We hadn't seen each other since before Christmas so we had a LOT to talk about.
:-) We got a lot accomplished too. I got all my cards made and then some and she got like 21 pages done.
It was hell going back to work today. Not that I didn't' want to go - LOVE getting away. But when you've been gone for a couple of days things kind of pile up and you feel a little bit overwhelmed.
I guess it's nice to have job security. :-)
"That's ok" she said in a voice tone that was in a sense saying 'I've lived with your lack of performance this long - I can keep going'. :-) It was so funny.
We (my *wonderful* children and myself) then spent 2 days together. Because of the cold school was cancelled. Ugghhh. How the heck to stay at home mothers do it??? Times like this make me really appreciate teachers.
Lon and I trucked out to Minooka on Saturday for a "Diva Day" (crop from 10-10) It was FANTASTIC!!! We had the best time. We've gone often enough now that we know most of the women by name and the owners are good friends now, too. It was a day that was MUCH needed for both of us.
We hadn't seen each other since before Christmas so we had a LOT to talk about.
:-) We got a lot accomplished too. I got all my cards made and then some and she got like 21 pages done.
It was hell going back to work today. Not that I didn't' want to go - LOVE getting away. But when you've been gone for a couple of days things kind of pile up and you feel a little bit overwhelmed.
I guess it's nice to have job security. :-)
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Homeschooling?
Jack had a dentist appointment yesterday and on the way there we started talking about school and he commented that he may fail (being a goober - not really) I said - he'd have to go to summer school - no camp. "Or you could home school me"
"Well, sure" I said "And you know - we could just go home and I'll do your teeth too."
"But you're not a dentist" he said, surprised.
"Yeah, and I'm not a teacher either, am I?"
"No, but we could have eaten lunch together."
He's such a pain in the arse. He's ALWAYS talking his way into or out of something. He gives me a headache. :-)
Dr Goodman was happy to see him. Thought he was going to have to pull a back tooth - but when the x-rays came back everything was ok. Didn't even charge us for the visit! :-) I figure he knows all too well that he'll be making some good money off of old Jack Jack. His mouth looks more like a picket fence. Plus the fact that he's already seen him twice for accidents. :-) But he did give us a couple of referrals for orthodontists. Ugghh. Dr Goodman seemed to think it would probably be a year or so before braces - and they MAY be able to do something preventative now.
We got through Market Day and then on to the course for dinner. We were all thinking we wouldn't have school. But to our surprise we were wrong. I think we were all happy to go to work/school today. :-)
Bill's been out plowing enough that the 3 of us are working each other's nerves pretty good. I was happy to get through the weekend without killing one of them. They were on fire!
"Well, sure" I said "And you know - we could just go home and I'll do your teeth too."
"But you're not a dentist" he said, surprised.
"Yeah, and I'm not a teacher either, am I?"
"No, but we could have eaten lunch together."
He's such a pain in the arse. He's ALWAYS talking his way into or out of something. He gives me a headache. :-)
Dr Goodman was happy to see him. Thought he was going to have to pull a back tooth - but when the x-rays came back everything was ok. Didn't even charge us for the visit! :-) I figure he knows all too well that he'll be making some good money off of old Jack Jack. His mouth looks more like a picket fence. Plus the fact that he's already seen him twice for accidents. :-) But he did give us a couple of referrals for orthodontists. Ugghh. Dr Goodman seemed to think it would probably be a year or so before braces - and they MAY be able to do something preventative now.
We got through Market Day and then on to the course for dinner. We were all thinking we wouldn't have school. But to our surprise we were wrong. I think we were all happy to go to work/school today. :-)
Bill's been out plowing enough that the 3 of us are working each other's nerves pretty good. I was happy to get through the weekend without killing one of them. They were on fire!
Sunday, January 11, 2009
The Brick Goes Down!
Well, not *really*. Sal got hit in the head at basketball yesterday. She cried and wouldn't let Coach Becky out of the bear hug she locked on her. But finally they got her to run down the court and the whole place cheered. Except me - I had missed the whole thing - I was sitting by little Emily - who, had been given her baby brother and I was fighting every urge I had to grab the child. I was SURE he was going head first down the bleacher stairs. Thank God Grandma came over and took him. Thank you - I could watch the game again.
Sal was no worse for the wear and was even excited about her team winning the game. Which is new - before she didn't have a clue or seem to care.
We also had swimming on Saturday. Oh my, how I forgot how "fun" swimming is. Or should I say dressing after swimming. Ughhh. Sal is just *starting* to put clothes on by herself and when she's wet - forget it. It's hard enough for me to get stuff on her.
I sat next to a troubled Mom who was sweating her kid screaming in the water. :-) I think she was wishing there was vodka in the coffee cup she had. :-) I told her about Jack who at age 5 screamed almost every swimming lesson and now at age 7 he's a darn fish and LOVES the water. The smile that came across her face told me she was in need of hearing that. I told her I knew exactly how she felt, do I push him? Do I let him quit? If I push him will he fear the water? I told her I thought she was doing the right thing in just letting him sit in on the lesson and not letting him get out but also not pushing him to do the "swim" thing - but letting him sit and then play ring around the rosie with the class. She was a very nice and thanked me for talking to her. When Sal came over she gave me a look and I explained the "Sal story". She told me her sister was autistic. I tell ya, God ALWAYS draws us together. It's certainly not "usual" for me to talk to anyone without them speaking first - but this lady seemed so lost in her world-plus, I shouldn't have even been on that side - but our instructor had said the kids would be on that side and then at the last minute changed - so I just stayed - and then we find this out about each other. God sure seems to work overtime sometimes. :-)
It was nice to meet up with someone who "gets it" this weekend. It was a rough two days with the kids by myself. It's like sometimes they just feed off each other and there's no talking to them. Like a full moon kind of thing. Jack especially seemed like a kid off his Ritalin.
They got paid tonight and as promised Sal was missing .50. She did not have good days at school on Thurs and Friday and we had told her that it was part of her "job description" if she wanted to receive her full allowance. I think she got the message when we paraded Jack's full allowance in front of her. And let me tell you - we were GENEROUS with his because he *should* have had deductions but I wanted to make an example for Sal. I told Jack that this week he would be "graded" more sternly - meaning his little smart mouth better stay silent more - much more.
Market Day tomorrow - wish I was going to work. I'm a little tired of Market Day - plus I may not have Bill to help - which leave me and only me. Ugghh. I'm hoping to rope in Mary with a sob story tomorrow. :-)
Sal was no worse for the wear and was even excited about her team winning the game. Which is new - before she didn't have a clue or seem to care.
We also had swimming on Saturday. Oh my, how I forgot how "fun" swimming is. Or should I say dressing after swimming. Ughhh. Sal is just *starting* to put clothes on by herself and when she's wet - forget it. It's hard enough for me to get stuff on her.
I sat next to a troubled Mom who was sweating her kid screaming in the water. :-) I think she was wishing there was vodka in the coffee cup she had. :-) I told her about Jack who at age 5 screamed almost every swimming lesson and now at age 7 he's a darn fish and LOVES the water. The smile that came across her face told me she was in need of hearing that. I told her I knew exactly how she felt, do I push him? Do I let him quit? If I push him will he fear the water? I told her I thought she was doing the right thing in just letting him sit in on the lesson and not letting him get out but also not pushing him to do the "swim" thing - but letting him sit and then play ring around the rosie with the class. She was a very nice and thanked me for talking to her. When Sal came over she gave me a look and I explained the "Sal story". She told me her sister was autistic. I tell ya, God ALWAYS draws us together. It's certainly not "usual" for me to talk to anyone without them speaking first - but this lady seemed so lost in her world-plus, I shouldn't have even been on that side - but our instructor had said the kids would be on that side and then at the last minute changed - so I just stayed - and then we find this out about each other. God sure seems to work overtime sometimes. :-)
It was nice to meet up with someone who "gets it" this weekend. It was a rough two days with the kids by myself. It's like sometimes they just feed off each other and there's no talking to them. Like a full moon kind of thing. Jack especially seemed like a kid off his Ritalin.
They got paid tonight and as promised Sal was missing .50. She did not have good days at school on Thurs and Friday and we had told her that it was part of her "job description" if she wanted to receive her full allowance. I think she got the message when we paraded Jack's full allowance in front of her. And let me tell you - we were GENEROUS with his because he *should* have had deductions but I wanted to make an example for Sal. I told Jack that this week he would be "graded" more sternly - meaning his little smart mouth better stay silent more - much more.
Market Day tomorrow - wish I was going to work. I'm a little tired of Market Day - plus I may not have Bill to help - which leave me and only me. Ugghh. I'm hoping to rope in Mary with a sob story tomorrow. :-)
Friday, January 09, 2009
10 "Usual" Traits of Autistic People
There are SO many "deficits" of Autism - but for every down side to autism, there seems to be a positive -- an unusual trait that rarely appears among the "typical" community, but shines out among autistic folk. These plusses are well worth celebrating. (rec'd from a friend and then edited by me) :-)
1. Autistic People Rarely Lie
We all claim to value the truth, but almost all of us tell little white lies. All, that is, except people on the autism spectrum. To them, truth is truth -- and a good word from a person on the spectrum is the real deal.
Sal doesn't lie but it getting good about "kidding". She also has a different idea of reality sometimes. For example - moving her aside is a "push" according to her. :-)
2. People on the Autism Spectrum Live in the Moment
How often do typical people fail to notice what's in front of their eyes because they're distracted by social cues or random chitchat? People on the autism spectrum truly attend to the sensory input that surrounds them. Many have achieved the ideal of mindfulness.
OH MY YES!!! And for the most part it is refreshing AND necessary - because - Sal's speech is sometimes lacking so talking about here and now provides clues for me to be able to guess at the word being said. (even though I "put my tongue on my teeth" I usually need more help) :-)
3. People with Autism Rarely Judge Others
Who's fatter? Richer? Smarter? For people on the autism spectrum, these distinctions hold much less importance than for typical folks. In fact, people on the spectrum often see through such surface appearances to discover the real person.
BIGTIME - Sal can't describe people - but she can remember a name! :-) Or where she saw them or who they "belong" to. :-) She rarely sees "bad" in the world. :-)
4. Autistic People are Passionate
Of course, not all autistic people are alike. But many are truly passionate about the things, ideas and people in their lives. How many "typical" people can say the same?
Yes, at age 11 I can honestly say my daughter *prefers* my company - which is both a blessing and a curse. Not only does it get "old" - I worry what will happen when I leave this earth. So we work HARD on separating. Even though we seem to have a link that is unseen.
5. People with Autism Are Not Tied to Social Expectations
If you've ever bought a car, played a game or joined a club to fit in, you know how hard it is to be true to yourself. But for people with autism, social expectations can be honestly irrelevant. What matters is true liking, interest and passion -- not keeping up with the Joneses.
And what I wouldn't give to have her father be the same. :-) No, Sal could care less about what you have or what your status is. She couldn't care less if you like her shirt or not - SHE does. :-) She LOVES her Dora hat and will wear it no matter what. Jack is her hero because he's her brother - no other reason. He doesn't have to be *someone* or care for her - she's the picture perfect unconditional lover. :-)
6. People with Autism Have Terrific Memories
How often do typical people forget directions, or fail to take note of colors, names, and other details? People on the autism spectrum are often much more tuned in to details. They may have a much better memory than their typical peers for all kind of critical details.
MOST CERTAINLY! Sal's memory is infallible! She remembers where others put stuff. (This is why her brother will live with her in college - he needs someone to remember where he put his shoes) :-) The strange thing is that she's not real sure about numbers. Which, in my opinion, is SO memory - so unchanging - 2+2 will ALWAYS be 4. Leaves me scratching my head.
7. Autistic People Are Less Materialistic
Of course, this is not universally true -- but in general, people with autism are far less concerned with outward appearance than their typical peers. As a result, they worry less about brand names, hairstyles and other expensive but unimportant externals than most people do.
Yep, she's NOT into brands or what's the latest cool thing. Doesn't mean she doesn't say at almost every toy commercial "I want that". :-) But it DOES mean that she's OVERJOYED at hand me downs and trinky little cheap things. :-)
8. Autistic People Play Fewer Head Games
Who was that woman, and why were you looking at her? I know I TOLD you I didn't mind if you went out, but why did you believe me? Most autistic people don't play games like these -- and they assume that you won't either. It's a refreshing and wonderful change from the Peyton Place emotional roller coaster that mars too many typical relationships!
And this is a main reason why Sal gravitates towards boys. They are more "what you see is what you get". There's no politics with boys. No, "oh no you didn't" crap. :-) I've always said Jack will be the politician and Sal will be his right hand aide - remembering all the names and where he left his speech. :-)
9. Autistic People Have Fewer Hidden Agendas
Most of the time, if a person on the autism spectrum tells you what he wants -- he is telling you what he wants. No need to beat around the bush, second guess, and hope you're reading between the lines!
Oh yeah, Sal most certainly knows what she wants and what *should* be done. Doesn't always mean she does it. :-) But she's also very blunt about what she wants and in our society can be easily seen as "rude". We try to remind her of her "tone" and what's rude and not to say. :-)
10. People with Autism Open New Doors for Neurotypicals
For some of us neurotypicals, having an autistic person in our lives has had a profound positive impact on our perceptions, beliefs and expectations. For me, at least, being the mom of a son on the autism spectrum has released me from a lifetime of "should" -- and offered me a new world of "is."
Oh Sing It Sistah!!!!! True, true true! My life is MUCH better because of Sal. She has saved me from what I *thought* was important - and made me realize what REALLY is. She's made me MUCH more liberal. :-) (to Bill's horror) She's made me more patient and able to see blessings SO much clearer. She's also brought some of the most FANTASTIC people I've ever met into my life. From Lon all the way to Katie and Pauly from bowling - because of her my life has been enriched. ;-)
1. Autistic People Rarely Lie
We all claim to value the truth, but almost all of us tell little white lies. All, that is, except people on the autism spectrum. To them, truth is truth -- and a good word from a person on the spectrum is the real deal.
Sal doesn't lie but it getting good about "kidding". She also has a different idea of reality sometimes. For example - moving her aside is a "push" according to her. :-)
2. People on the Autism Spectrum Live in the Moment
How often do typical people fail to notice what's in front of their eyes because they're distracted by social cues or random chitchat? People on the autism spectrum truly attend to the sensory input that surrounds them. Many have achieved the ideal of mindfulness.
OH MY YES!!! And for the most part it is refreshing AND necessary - because - Sal's speech is sometimes lacking so talking about here and now provides clues for me to be able to guess at the word being said. (even though I "put my tongue on my teeth" I usually need more help) :-)
3. People with Autism Rarely Judge Others
Who's fatter? Richer? Smarter? For people on the autism spectrum, these distinctions hold much less importance than for typical folks. In fact, people on the spectrum often see through such surface appearances to discover the real person.
BIGTIME - Sal can't describe people - but she can remember a name! :-) Or where she saw them or who they "belong" to. :-) She rarely sees "bad" in the world. :-)
4. Autistic People are Passionate
Of course, not all autistic people are alike. But many are truly passionate about the things, ideas and people in their lives. How many "typical" people can say the same?
Yes, at age 11 I can honestly say my daughter *prefers* my company - which is both a blessing and a curse. Not only does it get "old" - I worry what will happen when I leave this earth. So we work HARD on separating. Even though we seem to have a link that is unseen.
5. People with Autism Are Not Tied to Social Expectations
If you've ever bought a car, played a game or joined a club to fit in, you know how hard it is to be true to yourself. But for people with autism, social expectations can be honestly irrelevant. What matters is true liking, interest and passion -- not keeping up with the Joneses.
And what I wouldn't give to have her father be the same. :-) No, Sal could care less about what you have or what your status is. She couldn't care less if you like her shirt or not - SHE does. :-) She LOVES her Dora hat and will wear it no matter what. Jack is her hero because he's her brother - no other reason. He doesn't have to be *someone* or care for her - she's the picture perfect unconditional lover. :-)
6. People with Autism Have Terrific Memories
How often do typical people forget directions, or fail to take note of colors, names, and other details? People on the autism spectrum are often much more tuned in to details. They may have a much better memory than their typical peers for all kind of critical details.
MOST CERTAINLY! Sal's memory is infallible! She remembers where others put stuff. (This is why her brother will live with her in college - he needs someone to remember where he put his shoes) :-) The strange thing is that she's not real sure about numbers. Which, in my opinion, is SO memory - so unchanging - 2+2 will ALWAYS be 4. Leaves me scratching my head.
7. Autistic People Are Less Materialistic
Of course, this is not universally true -- but in general, people with autism are far less concerned with outward appearance than their typical peers. As a result, they worry less about brand names, hairstyles and other expensive but unimportant externals than most people do.
Yep, she's NOT into brands or what's the latest cool thing. Doesn't mean she doesn't say at almost every toy commercial "I want that". :-) But it DOES mean that she's OVERJOYED at hand me downs and trinky little cheap things. :-)
8. Autistic People Play Fewer Head Games
Who was that woman, and why were you looking at her? I know I TOLD you I didn't mind if you went out, but why did you believe me? Most autistic people don't play games like these -- and they assume that you won't either. It's a refreshing and wonderful change from the Peyton Place emotional roller coaster that mars too many typical relationships!
And this is a main reason why Sal gravitates towards boys. They are more "what you see is what you get". There's no politics with boys. No, "oh no you didn't" crap. :-) I've always said Jack will be the politician and Sal will be his right hand aide - remembering all the names and where he left his speech. :-)
9. Autistic People Have Fewer Hidden Agendas
Most of the time, if a person on the autism spectrum tells you what he wants -- he is telling you what he wants. No need to beat around the bush, second guess, and hope you're reading between the lines!
Oh yeah, Sal most certainly knows what she wants and what *should* be done. Doesn't always mean she does it. :-) But she's also very blunt about what she wants and in our society can be easily seen as "rude". We try to remind her of her "tone" and what's rude and not to say. :-)
10. People with Autism Open New Doors for Neurotypicals
For some of us neurotypicals, having an autistic person in our lives has had a profound positive impact on our perceptions, beliefs and expectations. For me, at least, being the mom of a son on the autism spectrum has released me from a lifetime of "should" -- and offered me a new world of "is."
Oh Sing It Sistah!!!!! True, true true! My life is MUCH better because of Sal. She has saved me from what I *thought* was important - and made me realize what REALLY is. She's made me MUCH more liberal. :-) (to Bill's horror) She's made me more patient and able to see blessings SO much clearer. She's also brought some of the most FANTASTIC people I've ever met into my life. From Lon all the way to Katie and Pauly from bowling - because of her my life has been enriched. ;-)
Thursday, January 08, 2009
The Social Butterfly
You may not know - buuuuuutttt - I have won the football pool against all my favorite Village people. That's right - I beat a bunch of BOYS at picking who would win each week. :-) I have my own formula of doing it and it drives Bill crazy. I can't let you in on all the secrets - but I ALWAYS go with Chicago and I ALWAYS go against Green Bay. :-) I also have a thing about Manning so I try to go with him - but last time I had to go against him. (sorry P). :-) I was the ONLY person to predict ALL the wildcard games correctly!!!! :-) I HAVE to gloat because last year I did really poorly. :-)
So I'm *praying* that my prediction of the Giants and Tennessee comes out correctly. :-) (Go Titans!) :-) It's been a fun ride and the trash talk has been LOTS of fun! :-)
We have signed Miss Sally up for all kinds of stuff!!! She comes home with something almost every night that she wants to do. :-) She's got bowling on Thursdays, basketball and social club on Saturdays, Tech club on Tues and Thurs, and she wants to go to Young Rembrandts on Fridays. :-) She's really getting *into* it now. :-)
Jack had his first basketball "class" last night. Afterwards the coach informed us that Jack was very good and would be a great basketball player. I think we BOTH rolled our eyes. Great - just what we need - Jack's thing is - he has a lot of God given talent for sports in general - BUT he has a LOT of quit in him. :-) He's got absolutely no Uncle Brad (standing out in the rain practicing 3 pointers) in him. (also wouldn't hurt to jack him up and run a little humility under him either).
Last night at dinner he was doing the whole "not fair" thing again because Sal's got so many things she's doing now. I told him that no, life wasn't fair. People don't get what the deserve and don't deserve what they get. It's not fair that Sal can't write, ride a bike, tie her shoes, or dribble a ball. It's not fair that he's alive and my friend's Jack isn't. If you don't ever question things when things are good why do you think you should question them when things aren't so good?
I think he really hates that he has a mother who gives ".50 cent lectures" (as my aunt used to say). :-) You can almost hear his little brain saying "why did I even say anything, here she goes again." :-)
We refinanced tonight - got a better rate - everything else stayed the same. Mr G is always happy to see our credit reports. ;-) (mine is better than Bills) :-p He also *loves* dealing with our insurance agent. :-) It worked out well that the kids were at daycare - but the animals were idiots just the same. :-)
The animals - ugghh. Mabe has been better since we put up the gate to downstairs and have closed all doors to the bedrooms. But Lord, she picks on Sade. I try to "rescue" Sade but she starts it too - so I figure let 'em have each other. :-)
Mabel's new trick is when she *does* get downstairs she jumps up on the computer table and into the window. Doesn't matter WHAT is up there - pictures, change, spelling words, you name it - it all goes flying - plus she's bending up my blinds down there. But God forbid she can't see outside. Who would howl at the kids walking to school??? :-)
So I'm *praying* that my prediction of the Giants and Tennessee comes out correctly. :-) (Go Titans!) :-) It's been a fun ride and the trash talk has been LOTS of fun! :-)
We have signed Miss Sally up for all kinds of stuff!!! She comes home with something almost every night that she wants to do. :-) She's got bowling on Thursdays, basketball and social club on Saturdays, Tech club on Tues and Thurs, and she wants to go to Young Rembrandts on Fridays. :-) She's really getting *into* it now. :-)
Jack had his first basketball "class" last night. Afterwards the coach informed us that Jack was very good and would be a great basketball player. I think we BOTH rolled our eyes. Great - just what we need - Jack's thing is - he has a lot of God given talent for sports in general - BUT he has a LOT of quit in him. :-) He's got absolutely no Uncle Brad (standing out in the rain practicing 3 pointers) in him. (also wouldn't hurt to jack him up and run a little humility under him either).
Last night at dinner he was doing the whole "not fair" thing again because Sal's got so many things she's doing now. I told him that no, life wasn't fair. People don't get what the deserve and don't deserve what they get. It's not fair that Sal can't write, ride a bike, tie her shoes, or dribble a ball. It's not fair that he's alive and my friend's Jack isn't. If you don't ever question things when things are good why do you think you should question them when things aren't so good?
I think he really hates that he has a mother who gives ".50 cent lectures" (as my aunt used to say). :-) You can almost hear his little brain saying "why did I even say anything, here she goes again." :-)
We refinanced tonight - got a better rate - everything else stayed the same. Mr G is always happy to see our credit reports. ;-) (mine is better than Bills) :-p He also *loves* dealing with our insurance agent. :-) It worked out well that the kids were at daycare - but the animals were idiots just the same. :-)
The animals - ugghh. Mabe has been better since we put up the gate to downstairs and have closed all doors to the bedrooms. But Lord, she picks on Sade. I try to "rescue" Sade but she starts it too - so I figure let 'em have each other. :-)
Mabel's new trick is when she *does* get downstairs she jumps up on the computer table and into the window. Doesn't matter WHAT is up there - pictures, change, spelling words, you name it - it all goes flying - plus she's bending up my blinds down there. But God forbid she can't see outside. Who would howl at the kids walking to school??? :-)
Tuesday, January 06, 2009
Some Thoughts......
Last night as I drifted off to sleep I was listening to my buddy Joel. He was talking about how we sometimes try to keep people in our lives that God is trying to take out of our lives. This really happened to hit home with me - it makes so much sense put that way. You know, how you keep trying to have a relationship with someone who just keeps driving you crazy? And it's kind of ironic that one of Bill's friends was here talking about something kind of the same. Seems we all *fight* to keep certain people in our lives when it's pretty obvious they really don't care to be. :-)
As I think back - I think I have had this problem most of my life. I guess it's kind of along the lines of never wanting the party to end. Only it's not a party anymore. Hmmmmm.
So, back to reality - boy, are we all glad to be back to our regular routine. Sal especially. She's all smiles everyday when I pick her up. She just loves school. Got a note from Jack's teacher that said he really works hard. What? Who??? Can you believe that???
Jack has been playing wrestling a lot since Santa dropped off the WWE ring and 4 wrestlers. What's funny is when he pins them he says "right in the *peanuts*". It's kind of like he's thinking penis but it's not coming out like that. It's funny. You know Jack.
Sal has really been making the progress. She now is putting on her pants and underwear by herself. She still has some trouble with shirts. But tonight she came up with asking if Pauly was going to Social Club "I like him better". I'm not sure better than what or who. :-) She also asked if Katie was going to the sleep over. This conversation was brought on by her - of course it took us awhile to get "Pauly" since she doesn't say "p'. :-) And then there was the tense moments when we weren't understanding "Megan" and we were told to put our teeth together. :-) She is a stitch.
As I think back - I think I have had this problem most of my life. I guess it's kind of along the lines of never wanting the party to end. Only it's not a party anymore. Hmmmmm.
So, back to reality - boy, are we all glad to be back to our regular routine. Sal especially. She's all smiles everyday when I pick her up. She just loves school. Got a note from Jack's teacher that said he really works hard. What? Who??? Can you believe that???
Jack has been playing wrestling a lot since Santa dropped off the WWE ring and 4 wrestlers. What's funny is when he pins them he says "right in the *peanuts*". It's kind of like he's thinking penis but it's not coming out like that. It's funny. You know Jack.
Sal has really been making the progress. She now is putting on her pants and underwear by herself. She still has some trouble with shirts. But tonight she came up with asking if Pauly was going to Social Club "I like him better". I'm not sure better than what or who. :-) She also asked if Katie was going to the sleep over. This conversation was brought on by her - of course it took us awhile to get "Pauly" since she doesn't say "p'. :-) And then there was the tense moments when we weren't understanding "Megan" and we were told to put our teeth together. :-) She is a stitch.
Sunday, January 04, 2009
Nights are SHORT
Either dogs or children wake us up by 6:30 everyday - there was absolutely NO sleeping in at all this "vacation". I can't wait till tomorrow - I will run in and kiss EVERY teacher. I've missed them SO much!!!! :-)
Well, I made it through 2 whole weeks at home with my children and no one went to the hospital or jail! I think that's an accomplishment! :-)
Sally's been asking since the 26th for the tree to come down. "It's over". she keeps saying. I like her way of thinking. I'm not real fond of the tree to begin with. But I hate the thought of dragging out the boxes and putting everything away. I need a break - thank God I go to work tomorrow. :-)
Basketball yesterday. The Brick did her usual "screening". :-) She DID run up and down appropriately without being told. She's progressing. The team we "versus'" (as Jack says) was unbelievable!!!! I swear these kids (special needs) are going to take over the world - come back and beat the crap out of the people who ridicule, disrespect and baby them. There were 3 coaches on the other team who were insistent on yelling at their kids - one coach/young adult even got in the ear of a kid. Looked like they were brothers. As a parent I would NEVER let a sibling do that to another sibling let alone a coach. These kids work SO hard just at things we take for granted (ie: walking, talking, making sense of the world) that basketball or any other sport is SO NOT important!!!! Even the kids themselves seem to "get that". They're excited by just making a basket - they have no defensive plans or triangle offense. Finally one of the parents said something to the coach and in front of the crowd. I wanted to stand and cheer!!!!! I swear there's a special kind of hell for those people.
Our coaches are SO good!!!! They yell - like "go that way" or "go _____" There's no demeaning or expectations. Why do adults insist on putting THEIR expectations on these kids??? Why can't they be allowed to be them???
Sally had a ball - as usual and we went to Culvers to rehash the game. :-) Mostly to review names of players. :-) There's 2 Tommies a Johnie and a Paulie so I get a little confused. :-) Sally sets me straight though. :-)
We're planning on taking back the house today and of course I have to write the Market Day letter and get that out tomorrow. Back to "normal" life. :-)
Well, I made it through 2 whole weeks at home with my children and no one went to the hospital or jail! I think that's an accomplishment! :-)
Sally's been asking since the 26th for the tree to come down. "It's over". she keeps saying. I like her way of thinking. I'm not real fond of the tree to begin with. But I hate the thought of dragging out the boxes and putting everything away. I need a break - thank God I go to work tomorrow. :-)
Basketball yesterday. The Brick did her usual "screening". :-) She DID run up and down appropriately without being told. She's progressing. The team we "versus'" (as Jack says) was unbelievable!!!! I swear these kids (special needs) are going to take over the world - come back and beat the crap out of the people who ridicule, disrespect and baby them. There were 3 coaches on the other team who were insistent on yelling at their kids - one coach/young adult even got in the ear of a kid. Looked like they were brothers. As a parent I would NEVER let a sibling do that to another sibling let alone a coach. These kids work SO hard just at things we take for granted (ie: walking, talking, making sense of the world) that basketball or any other sport is SO NOT important!!!! Even the kids themselves seem to "get that". They're excited by just making a basket - they have no defensive plans or triangle offense. Finally one of the parents said something to the coach and in front of the crowd. I wanted to stand and cheer!!!!! I swear there's a special kind of hell for those people.
Our coaches are SO good!!!! They yell - like "go that way" or "go _____" There's no demeaning or expectations. Why do adults insist on putting THEIR expectations on these kids??? Why can't they be allowed to be them???
Sally had a ball - as usual and we went to Culvers to rehash the game. :-) Mostly to review names of players. :-) There's 2 Tommies a Johnie and a Paulie so I get a little confused. :-) Sally sets me straight though. :-)
We're planning on taking back the house today and of course I have to write the Market Day letter and get that out tomorrow. Back to "normal" life. :-)
Thursday, January 01, 2009
Happy New Year
A new year! I always like the new year - it always feels fresh - like the first day of school. So full of hope - like anything is possible. My resolution this year is to make Sal do more things for herself. I've found out that I have been doing things for her out of habit, not pushing her to be more independent.
We went out to eat this morning and then to Menards for new blinds. :-) Bill put them up as soon as we got home - they look very nice. I'll put up the valance tomorrow - I'm thinking of getting a new rod - I'll have to see.
Got all my secret Santa gifts - now I just need to box them and mail them. I have a BUNCH of stuff - had a good time with the after Christmas sales. :-)
Doing menus for next week- it all starts big and bold. Jack's got basketball on Monday - Sal bowling on Thurs and then swimming on Sat along with basketball for Sal. The break has been nice. Jack's been having a great time playing with his friends. Sally is more of a home body and we've been reading and doing math work.
She's back into bugging me about Yoga. Guess we'll start that again. Jack likes to try it but I'm not sure how he'll like doing it when there's school. He can be a real grump in the morning. :-)
Well, here's hoping we all have less apologies to make and more to be thankful for in 2009!!!!!
We went out to eat this morning and then to Menards for new blinds. :-) Bill put them up as soon as we got home - they look very nice. I'll put up the valance tomorrow - I'm thinking of getting a new rod - I'll have to see.
Got all my secret Santa gifts - now I just need to box them and mail them. I have a BUNCH of stuff - had a good time with the after Christmas sales. :-)
Doing menus for next week- it all starts big and bold. Jack's got basketball on Monday - Sal bowling on Thurs and then swimming on Sat along with basketball for Sal. The break has been nice. Jack's been having a great time playing with his friends. Sally is more of a home body and we've been reading and doing math work.
She's back into bugging me about Yoga. Guess we'll start that again. Jack likes to try it but I'm not sure how he'll like doing it when there's school. He can be a real grump in the morning. :-)
Well, here's hoping we all have less apologies to make and more to be thankful for in 2009!!!!!
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