Whelp, it looks like Bill and I really are going to be part of the 80% of couples with Special Needs children that divorce. Yeah, it was a shock to me too. But I'm not going to get into our relationship since it would only be my side.
I mostly worry about the kids. Right now Jack has my attention since he's the one that will be affected mostly by feelings and such. Sal will be affected by routine. Since we'll (me and the kids) be staying in the house, Sal will be ok after he actually goes. Jack, on the other hand will take it harder, I believe.
The schools have been GREAT! I've told the teachers and had a pow wow with the Social Worker at Jack's school and she helped me as well as him. We'll manage. It just seems so unfair and I find myself wanting to stamp my feet and scream "not fair, not fair". I guess there's probably a lot of people out there that feel that way.
Now begins the untangling of lives. It's harder than you think and it's all these little things you don't think about like the electric is in his name. Stupid stuff like that. Already there has been some division of friends. People I thought I knew - well, hell, who am I kidding - *I* thought I knew Bill. Seems we never really know anyone - not really.
Anyway, little by little I'm picking up my life. I've found some sort of strength I NEVER thought I had. Really kind of surprised myself.
So back to my kids. Jack is hitting the ball out of the park at Jr High. Really excelling in class and seeming to really be enjoying himself. I do worry that he feels he has to be the man now and somehow "save" me. I talk to him every night about how this is NOT his fault and that his only worries are grades and being in trouble. Or more like not being in trouble. :-)
Sally is loving school - not a surprise there. She's in a life skills class and really enjoys the weekly field trips and getting to "work" in the cafeteria. The class took a trip to the Post Office a couple of weeks ago and they were amazed that all the clerks at the PO knew Sal by name and that when they were walking in they got hollers from the Public Works guys to Sal. They didn't realize what a celebrity she is. ;-)
Her birthday came and went. We had a bouncy castle and the whole neighborhood showed up at one point or another. Aunt Jill came up and of course brought cookies that spelled out "Sally 15". She had a great weekend, that's for sure. She's also started Swim team and running class and restaurant review. She loves the after school stuff.
